i love when i read what's on your mind.. by this meta..... do they really want to know.. who wants to know.... but for me what was on my mind yesterday was the importance of Touch
i'm a visual and tactile person.... emotional.. feel things so deeply.. which can be good and bad...... but in the end better to feel deeply ..... power of the heart.. sensitivity to others and the world around us... it feeds my abilities as a photographer.. to see.. pick up on nuances... pick one person from a crowd..... make that connection........ we are a grand cloth made up of many threads.... each one adding or taking away.. much like spices to food
But it was when i was lost in a massage.... my mind and body completely let go.. both travelling ,free wheeling.... and my thoughts were deeply elevated just about the thought of touch..... i was in such a great state of peace and nurturing.. and i was thinking a lot about the concept of touch or the absence of it.....
we learn from a very early age.. birth.. the need to be held, comforted.. patted gently urging to find sleep.... we learn all the ways in which as we get older.. to greet others. to make friends.. to shake hands.. to hug.. to kiss hello and goodbye.. pat or push each other with a hardy joke... .... and you surely know when you shake a hand that feels like a fish how not so nice that feels.... it is life affirming... connection..... words.. but touch is like an exclamation point...
later many crave pets. yes because like me who adores animals. we want them around. but inherently also bc yet without language..... they show by their being... their warmth.. their touch, climbing on our laps. grazing past our legs.. a paw pat.. a lick.... their connection and trust in us.......... that there is something greater than words that can happen through sounds and touch..... but yes they even learn some words.. but it's the physicality of holding them close .. they comforting us that is so wonderful..... the need for all of us to nurture and be nurtured.... i always remember when i would cry how my cat would come on my lap and lick my face..... he knew.. we humans have the same capability....
and it is also in reverse........if animals are treated badly they are inclined to bark or bite.. do harm.... humans too without touch , love, warmth.. suffer greatly ., sometimes forever..
i remember as a 14 year old… in love with someone 16yo....he felt so much older than me…but i was mesmerized….. we would look into each others eyes. …and in those moments we communicated so clearly about how we felt about each other. .. but there were no words at all.. i sat behind him in a car.. and let my fingers ever so gently touch the back of his shirt.. a flicker.. felt i know between the two of us. wondrous… the next day he sought me out and we were together for many years
but yesterday it was just a massage.... the soothing hands rubbing my hands ,feet, head all over.. the deliciousness of it all. the comfort.. the sensory pleasure.. the need by all of us to touch and be touched.. i love it..
i think i’m at a good place in myself…. where i feel centered by many truths and realities of life.. see , understand , percieve things more clearly and feel things more deeply and truthfully…
it's soooo simple.. but i love the power of touch.. . .a high five.... ... a brush near dancing.... ...the warmth of someone lying near......a good ole bear hug...... or grab of a hand to introduce your self.... or to say goodbye.......
